Preparing for Spring

One thing that has happened in the last year and a half, is I ended my eight years of renting apartments or duplexes and I’m again, a home owner. This means I can garden in a yard. YAY!

So having two of my grands over for a sleepover, gave the perfect opportunity for them to plant a few bulbs. Ages seven and three, digging a trench for the bulbs was the perfect activity.

I love the metaphor of winter being a time of slowing down, rebuilding under the surface, that leads to flourishment in the Spring.

I can’t wait for the little shoots to spring up and pointing out to the grands that it is because of bulbs, trenches, and them.

— Namaste

Single and a Homebody

I like to stay home. It took me awhile to figure this out because I like to go out too.

View from deck – at home.

But if I were to compare myself to others, a homebody I am.  Couple this fact, with the fact I am single, and where do I meet available men?

I don’t.

I’ve been divorced for 16 years and that is longer than I was married (12). I haven’t had a significant other in my life for the last three years, because frankly I wanted to heal, chill, and be by myself.  I feel better. So technically, I guess I could start dating again, but creating a profile online, as I have in the past, doesn’t sound right anymore.

I know if I had someone to share events with, I would enjoy going out more. But, this break is also about doing things by myself, for myself to prove once and for all, I don’t need anyone else to make me happy. I’m not lobbing on to someone just so I’m not alone.  So I’ve set a few summer resolutions: 1) go to events by myself; 2) eat out by myself (this one is HARD!); and 3) join groups to meet people to simply widen my circle.

I have a few upcoming plans to experience events by myself. I don’t mind walking into places alone and I’ve been going alone to certain things all my life.  But going to a concert, is scary therefore, this is at the top of my list. (More on that later.)

This May I joined a biking club and have been going to rides about once a week. I can be better about joining in, but I have made progress. Yay me! (If so many of the rides didn’t start at O dark thirty, I’d have joined in more.) Before joining, riding by myself has been therapeutic, spontaneous, and adventurous, so I don’t want to rule out single rides altogether.  Baby steps.

So how does a homebody find someone she likes? She sticks with liking herself.

– Namaste