Top 7 ways to combat challenges of being an older woman

olderwomanThere are worse problems than being an older woman these days, but the United States population doesn’t have a lot of love for this group. When you find yourself being discarded, draw on the inner resilience that has gotten you this far through life.  Change your way of thinking to combat the challenges you’ll face in this life stage.

#1 Women over 50 years are sexless — Who says? Yes, you won’t turn heads when you walk in a room of young attractive men, but go in a room of 80 year olds, then see who turns heads. You know your body, you have a sense of self that you never had when you were in your 20s. Seize that confidence and show your sex appeal every day.

#2 Women over 50 years are useless at work — Remind your boss of the times you’ve taught your younger co-workers something they should have probably already known. Point out that you are hardly ever sick (no little ones to infect you). Stress that you aren’t going to be taking any maternity leave in the near future. The baby boomers are retiring at record numbers. Use your wisdom to skyrocket profits and job satisfaction.

#3 Women over 50 years old are disagreeable — Have you seen how grumpy older men get? Disagreeable. [head shake] At work, don’t point out every faux pas or state how it used to be done. Who cares. Go with the flow is the name of the game and embrace enjoying life.

#4 Fifty year old women aren’t physically active — By this time in life you know whether joining a gym or working out on your own, is your jam. Stay active. Move as much as possible and don’t let age dictate on what you think you can do or can’t do as far as physical activity.

#5 Women over 50 aren’t beautiful — You are beautiful. You have the confidence. You beautifulalso have more discretionary spending power, so use it! Spend money on your wardrobe and yourself. Pamper yourself so you feel and exude that beautiful vibe where ever you are.

#6 Women over 50 are in the way — The myth that you are in the way stems from past 50 year old women taking a back seat to their lives. Be the woman you’d like to be friends with, or the woman you look up to. Get involved in life by volunteering, traveling, experiencing as much as you can.

#7 Fifty year old women are financially challenged — It is a definite truth. Men in pre-retirement age (50 to 64) have 1 ½ times the wealth of women that age — $60,500 compared to $38,200.  To combat this truth, diversify where your income is coming from by working on a side hustle, consulting, creative venture, or helping a small business thrive due to your experience.  Prepare for more of the same in your future.

Again, when you find yourself being discarded, draw on the inner resilience that has gotten you this far through life.  Combat the challenges you’ll face in this life stage with everything you have. The payoffs will be big — and your own.

— Namaste

Getting Old Isn’t for Pussy’s

In August and October 2016, I had two hip replacement surgeries. Since I was only 52, it was a surprise to my friends and family. For me, I had know a long time that new hips were inevitable.

I had the best orthopedic surgeon! The recovery was not bad (although I was more cranky with the second surgery #tiredofhurting), with me back to work in a week-and-a-half. I was up walking almost immediately and the awful pain was gone. More due to a newer way of doing the surgery, called direct anterior hip replacement where the doc goes through two muscles so there is less damage from which to recover, than any rehab I had to do. Check out the 23 minute video of the surgery. So awesome.TotalHipReplacement_-_Before__After

I had lived three years in misery – why? I wasn’t scared of surgery, or trying to pretend it wasn’t happening. Probably the only thing that I was scared of were the medical bills. I have good medical insurance I pay through my employer, but I knew my finances couldn’t even take the out-of-pocket shock from all the directions a surgery incurs – anesthesiologist, surgeon’s office, hospital, drugs, etc. If you are in this situation, just have the surgery, go on a payment plan, and if you are like me, you will have paid off those beauties in five to six months.

Interesting things I learned:

  1. If you get a new body part, for the rest of your life, you’ll have to tell your dentist before any appointments, even just cleanings. The dentist will need to put you on antibiotics before the appointment because if there is any infection having to do with the dentist procedure, it could cause that infection to attack the new joint.
  2. The titanium joint will set off metal detectors at the airport, etc.
  3. Before joint replacement surgery, you wash in an antiseptic soap all over your body and put an antibiotic drop under your tongue, for three days before the surgery. This rids the body of natural bacteria growing on your skin.
  4. #dawgsinthehouse make for great recovery buddies.  #neverleftmyside20160410_193348

Namaste