While raising my kids, I lived on a large corner lot for 23 years. We had many perennial flower and organic vegetable gardens in that time. So after being forced to downsize, gardening has taken on a different look.
For the past two years, I lived in a small space with no direct access to the outdoors. No gardens. No bird feeders. No air.
But since September 2016, I pay too much rent for a gorgeous townhome with a tiny deck. Awe air. #loveIt. #thankful #lucky
(Seriously, rents are outrageous. My mortgage for a fine place of my own would be much less than what I pay as rent.) I digress.
I’m taking full advantage of this newfound access to the outdoors. Flowers. Vegetables. Birds. Oh my.
I like to stay home. It took me awhile to figure this out because I like to go out too.
But if I were to compare myself to others, a homebody I am. Couple this fact, with the fact I am single, and where do I meet available men?
I’ve been divorced for 16 years and that is longer than I was married (12). I haven’t had a significant other in my life for the last three years, because frankly I wanted to heal, chill, and be by myself. I feel better. So technically, I guess I could start dating again, but creating a profile online, as I have in the past, doesn’t sound right anymore.
I know if I had someone to share events with, I would enjoy going out more. But, this break is also about doing things by myself, for myself to prove once and for all, I don’t need anyone else to make me happy. I’m not lobbing on to someone just so I’m not alone. So I’ve set a few summer resolutions: 1) go to events by myself; 2) eat out by myself (this one is HARD!); and 3) join groups to meet people to simply widen my circle.
I have a few upcoming plans to experience events by myself. I don’t mind walking into places alone and I’ve been going alone to certain things all my life. But going to a concert, is scary therefore, this is at the top of my list. (More on that later.)
This May I joined a biking club and have been going to rides about once a week. I can be better about joining in, but I have made progress. Yay me! (If so many of the rides didn’t start at O dark thirty, I’d have joined in more.) Before joining, riding by myself has been therapeutic, spontaneous, and adventurous, so I don’t want to rule out single rides altogether. Baby steps.
So how does a homebody find someone she likes? She sticks with liking herself.
In the last two weeks, I’ve dog sat twice. Once to Odin, my son’s puppy, while they went on vacation for 5 days. Odin is a little Beagle who is soft and cuddly.
And, once for Larue, my daughter’s one-year old, for 4 days. Larue is a rescue who is the sweetest non-dominant demeanor dog I’ve met.
Odin had psychotic puppy energy that frankly, Buddy wasn’t going to put up with. This made for a long 5 days. This and the fact he isn’t potty trained yet. (Which reminds me – call ZeroRez Carpet Cleaning)
Larue and Buddy played and played which was so fun. Larue being the non-dominant dog she is, pees whenever she gets excited. She gets excited a lot.
I dog sat twice, but it only takes one dog sitting favor, to remind me why I have only one dog.