Top 7 ways to combat challenges of being an older woman

olderwomanThere are worse problems than being an older woman these days, but the United States population doesn’t have a lot of love for this group. When you find yourself being discarded, draw on the inner resilience that has gotten you this far through life.  Change your way of thinking to combat the challenges you’ll face in this life stage.

#1 Women over 50 years are sexless — Who says? Yes, you won’t turn heads when you walk in a room of young attractive men, but go in a room of 80 year olds, then see who turns heads. You know your body, you have a sense of self that you never had when you were in your 20s. Seize that confidence and show your sex appeal every day.

#2 Women over 50 years are useless at work — Remind your boss of the times you’ve taught your younger co-workers something they should have probably already known. Point out that you are hardly ever sick (no little ones to infect you). Stress that you aren’t going to be taking any maternity leave in the near future. The baby boomers are retiring at record numbers. Use your wisdom to skyrocket profits and job satisfaction.

#3 Women over 50 years old are disagreeable — Have you seen how grumpy older men get? Disagreeable. [head shake] At work, don’t point out every faux pas or state how it used to be done. Who cares. Go with the flow is the name of the game and embrace enjoying life.

#4 Fifty year old women aren’t physically active — By this time in life you know whether joining a gym or working out on your own, is your jam. Stay active. Move as much as possible and don’t let age dictate on what you think you can do or can’t do as far as physical activity.

#5 Women over 50 aren’t beautiful — You are beautiful. You have the confidence. You beautifulalso have more discretionary spending power, so use it! Spend money on your wardrobe and yourself. Pamper yourself so you feel and exude that beautiful vibe where ever you are.

#6 Women over 50 are in the way — The myth that you are in the way stems from past 50 year old women taking a back seat to their lives. Be the woman you’d like to be friends with, or the woman you look up to. Get involved in life by volunteering, traveling, experiencing as much as you can.

#7 Fifty year old women are financially challenged — It is a definite truth. Men in pre-retirement age (50 to 64) have 1 ½ times the wealth of women that age — $60,500 compared to $38,200.  To combat this truth, diversify where your income is coming from by working on a side hustle, consulting, creative venture, or helping a small business thrive due to your experience.  Prepare for more of the same in your future.

Again, when you find yourself being discarded, draw on the inner resilience that has gotten you this far through life.  Combat the challenges you’ll face in this life stage with everything you have. The payoffs will be big — and your own.

— Namaste

What I’ve been reading

Baby it’s cold outside. What a great time to grab a book and rack up those “books read” for your Goodreads challenge.

Here are three books that I’ve recently read that are notable.

lessLess by Andrew Greer. My book club members brought this book to my attention.

The story involves a writer with a degree of success who is finding it hard to accept that his boyfriend of nine years is marrying someone else. So to deal, he gets out of town in order to miss the nuptials date.

Way out of town. Paris, Berlin, Morocco, Southern India, a desert island, and the Sahara.

The humor is low-key and smart. This was a real pleasure to read — what truly lovely love story isn’t a pleasure to read.

clementineClementine: The Life of Mrs. Winston Churchill by Sonia Purnell

I enjoyed this biography of a public figure that I may not have been interested in before reading. This was a book I had to read for book club.

I learned about what was going on in the background during WWII England, British government, life as an aristocrat (yea, I want to write Aristocat) Winston Churchill and Clemmie.

I recommend.

greataloneThe Great Alone by Hannah Kristin

I really enjoyed this book. It might be the topic of Alaska homesteading, because I’ve always thought that would be a great way to live.

The young family moves to Alaska in the 1970s to escape demons. The dad, a former Vietnam POW, suffering from PTSD is the driver. His wife and daughter are the helpless riders in Volkswagon bus — literally and figuratively.

Let’s face it, Kristin Hannah knows how to tell a good story.

Enjoy these if you try them; if not, enjoy whatever helps you through.

— Namaste