Best books I’ve read lately

Books are personal. Go to any book club where a group of people read the same book and listen to all the differing opinions.

I used to not like to get suggestions from people about good books because my list of books to read is never ending. But, I’ve found that reading suggestions, brings a variety to the types of books I read that is refreshing.

So whether you want any book suggestions or not, I’m going to put these right here. Up to you. ๐Ÿ˜‰

BeartownBeartown by Fredrik Backman. This author also wrote, ‘A Man Called Ove,’ which I disliked enough to not finish it but this book was the opposite. Insightful. Fast moving. It’s about a town in love with hockey.




beforeWewereYoursBefore We Were Yours by Lisa Wingate. I really enjoyed this book and not for the sappy story that it certainly is, but for the description of the young families life on the river. Enchanting.




RobertPeaseThe Short and Tragic Life of Robert Peace by Jeff Hobbs.ย  This was a great story that I’m glad I read it. I think of it often.

While reading, I thought the story could have been edited by half and it would have been stronger โ€” it repeated itself too much. I hate that.

But if you have a mind, meet Robert Peace and see his life.


AnnaKAnna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy. In my attempt to read good books I haven’t read in my lifetime, I occasionally throw in a classic. I was so surprised by the timelessness of his writing and his insights into emotions. Enjoyed this very much.





Friday night dinners

DinnerMy daughter and I loved to watch the TV show, “Gilmore Girls.” If you’re not familiar it, single mom and daughter Lorelai and Rory had to go to their stodgy grandparents/parents weekly Friday night dinners in exchange for their payment of Rory’s school tuition.ย  Those visits were epic-ly tense, combative, and dreaded.

But it gave my daughter the idea to have Friday night dinners (FND) for our tribe. Of course it has to be at my place and she fully admits she likes it because it is one night a week where she doesn’t have to cook or decide on what to cook. I love my kids so I agreed.

The first FND was nearly two years ago and I can count the number of times we’ve cancelled on my fingers.

I’ve had times that I’ve complained about doing it because I’m not retired and Friday nights I can be quite worn out from my job. The kids show up at my place before I even get home from work, so there is no transition from a stressful week of work to full blown chaos. Yelling and running kids, interpersonal squabbles, and a great deal of mess.

It’s also a lot of work. My entire week revolves around planning what to have, getting the groceries, prepping the food on Thursday night (no matter how I feel), and cleaning up Saturday morning โ€” every Saturday morning. It’s the work of a holiday meal โ€” food for 10 to 12 โ€” every week. And, there is a financial cost.

But with all the work involved, after the years of committing to this, I’ve grown to love the idea. It gives me something to look forward to every week. The grandkids have a drawer in the frigerator where they find their own drinks and can help themselves to whenever they want. (Love) My little two year old grandson knows where to get blankets, extra clothes, spoons, and toys since he was itty bitty. (Love)

We have deep conversations.


We play board games, hide and seek, find the magic egg, and do a little Kung Fu fighting.


It’s a little frightening. [hee hee]

Cuddling is encouraged;


but more often than not, given the number of boys we have, sword action.


Sometimes this happens:


But more often, this:


Of course we all eat great food. I love the way everyone comes as is, maybe dirty from their construction job, or proud of an achievement.


We grow habits together like waving to my daughter as she drives off to her night shift nursing.


What is better than that?

โ€” Namaste


Too scared to do what?

violin.jpegIf there were a class you wished you would have taken in your school career, what would it be?

Maybe going out for the baseball team or for girls volleyball?

I know I wished I would have started violin lessons in the sixth grade. I had just moved from a farm where the local school was in a town with a population of 500, to living in city of 10,000. I was also going from public school to private. I was so scared.

So when the tour of the new school revealed there was an orchestra, I was dumb struck. Too scared to start lessons then for the violin because the others had been taking lessons for a couple of years. Too scared is all I was.

So after four kids and a divorce, about 15 years ago, I restored my grandmothers old violin and took lessons. It was hard to find time to practice with all the kids at home like they were, so I stopped the lessons.

Maybe I should start those up again? YOLO

So what about you? What were you too scared to follow through with? It’s not too late.


โ€” Namaste

Invisible at 50

I’ve never liked attention. I stand in the back. I’m the last to walk through the door. I’m late for things so I can slip in. I stay quiet until I know someone.

I’m tall and blonde so I’ve gotten my fair share of men’s looks. Most of the time it made me feel uncomfortable and I certainly noticed when they stopped looking a few years ago. But for the most part, I’ve found the lack of men’s attention nice. Not all women feel this way. And, I sure don’t have life after my kids figured out yet.ย  But, there has been something happening that is bothering me more than not being noticed for my looks.

Being discounted because of my age.

Whether it is the assumption I don’t know technology because of my age or that I don’t understand something because it is new to the younger person, is happening significantly more than it ever did previously.

I am in my early 50s, which means I’ll be in the workforce for another 15 to 20 years. To me, this seems like a long time to be discounted.

Of course I have examples of this shunning outside my work, but since the majority of my time is spent at work, it’s where I have the most examples.ย  To be fair, I notice my thinking is slower โ€” I hate that. But, I have things to contribute.

I talk to other women in the workforce at this age. Work is not very satisfying when it gets to this point. Many can retire because they have a husband and they are fed up.

I cannot. 15 to 20 years ahead. I’m trying to wrap my head around how to be at peace with going to work, getting the paycheck and going home.

If anyone has any advice, I’d love to hear it.

โ€” Namaste