Top 7 ways to combat challenges of being an older woman

olderwomanThere are worse problems than being an older woman these days, but the United States population doesn’t have a lot of love for this group. When you find yourself being discarded, draw on the inner resilience that has gotten you this far through life.  Change your way of thinking to combat the challenges you’ll face in this life stage.

#1 Women over 50 years are sexless — Who says? Yes, you won’t turn heads when you walk in a room of young attractive men, but go in a room of 80 year olds, then see who turns heads. You know your body, you have a sense of self that you never had when you were in your 20s. Seize that confidence and show your sex appeal every day.

#2 Women over 50 years are useless at work — Remind your boss of the times you’ve taught your younger co-workers something they should have probably already known. Point out that you are hardly ever sick (no little ones to infect you). Stress that you aren’t going to be taking any maternity leave in the near future. The baby boomers are retiring at record numbers. Use your wisdom to skyrocket profits and job satisfaction.

#3 Women over 50 years old are disagreeable — Have you seen how grumpy older men get? Disagreeable. [head shake] At work, don’t point out every faux pas or state how it used to be done. Who cares. Go with the flow is the name of the game and embrace enjoying life.

#4 Fifty year old women aren’t physically active — By this time in life you know whether joining a gym or working out on your own, is your jam. Stay active. Move as much as possible and don’t let age dictate on what you think you can do or can’t do as far as physical activity.

#5 Women over 50 aren’t beautiful — You are beautiful. You have the confidence. You beautifulalso have more discretionary spending power, so use it! Spend money on your wardrobe and yourself. Pamper yourself so you feel and exude that beautiful vibe where ever you are.

#6 Women over 50 are in the way — The myth that you are in the way stems from past 50 year old women taking a back seat to their lives. Be the woman you’d like to be friends with, or the woman you look up to. Get involved in life by volunteering, traveling, experiencing as much as you can.

#7 Fifty year old women are financially challenged — It is a definite truth. Men in pre-retirement age (50 to 64) have 1 ½ times the wealth of women that age — $60,500 compared to $38,200.  To combat this truth, diversify where your income is coming from by working on a side hustle, consulting, creative venture, or helping a small business thrive due to your experience.  Prepare for more of the same in your future.

Again, when you find yourself being discarded, draw on the inner resilience that has gotten you this far through life.  Combat the challenges you’ll face in this life stage with everything you have. The payoffs will be big — and your own.

— Namaste

Have you ever heard of NaNoWrMo?

I listen to podcasts a lot and sometimes get bored with whatever I’ve been listening to.  So about a year ago, while looking for something new I ran across an obscure podcast that was a quick, easy listen.

In many of the episodes, the host kept mentioning Nano month and how much she was trying to meet this writing goal. It was totally foreign to me but because I’ve been writing a lot more in recent years I tried to find out what I could.

Fast forward to this past Thursday and I’m on a conference call listening to a town hall. I’m skimming my smart phone and notice that trending on Twitter is #NaNoWrMo2018. Hmmm.

I looked into it and decided to join in for the fun of it. No planning. No forethought. I grabbed one of the projects I’ve been working on and I’m off.

NaNoWrMo stands for National Novel Writing Month. It appears to have been going onbooks-education-school-literature-51342 for a long time but I didn’t know anything about it. It’s basically an organization that through a website provides motivation to write. On November 1, participants begin working towards the goal of writing a 50,000-word novel by 11:59 PM on November 30.

I know 50,000 probably won’t happen for me but they say that it is an achievable goal for a full-time worker with a family to achieve in a month. So let’s test this. I’ll let you know how many words I write in November. (Not counting blogs or paid projects that is.)

Have you ever heard of NaNoWrMo? Are you doing it this month? Have you ever? I’d love to know.

— Namaste

Too scared to do what?

violin.jpegIf there were a class you wished you would have taken in your school career, what would it be?

Maybe going out for the baseball team or for girls volleyball?

I know I wished I would have started violin lessons in the sixth grade. I had just moved from a farm where the local school was in a town with a population of 500, to living in city of 10,000. I was also going from public school to private. I was so scared.

So when the tour of the new school revealed there was an orchestra, I was dumb struck. Too scared to start lessons then for the violin because the others had been taking lessons for a couple of years. Too scared is all I was.

So after four kids and a divorce, about 15 years ago, I restored my grandmothers old violin and took lessons. It was hard to find time to practice with all the kids at home like they were, so I stopped the lessons.

Maybe I should start those up again? YOLO

So what about you? What were you too scared to follow through with? It’s not too late.

Yet.

— Namaste

Working from home

Lord. Some weeks, I think the only thing that gets me through, is the fact that I get to work from home occasionally.

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I work in an area of the building where there is no way to see outside. No natural light. If it is a snowstorm or sun-shiny day, I will not know the difference. This goes against everything that is me. If I could work in the open air everyday and still make a living, I would be doing it.

So when I am working remotely, I’ll find some way to feel that breeze on my skin. Only 15 to 20 years to retirement yall! I need something to get me through these weeks.

— Namaste

P.S. . . . and the Budster loves to have buddyme home too so he can lay in the sun.